Taken from my post in facebook

"    I used to think that change was only possible if I were Miss World, or something along the line. However, I realized that change is possible, and it starts with me. 

     I know that most of you are wondering “what change?”, “who are these people tagged?”, and “why I am even tagged?” Well, you guys all fall under different categories; people who I respect a lot, people who I love dearly, people whom I have lost touch with, and/or people whom I thought I would never hold another conversation with, in this life time. Obviously there is no specific category for everyone, because amidst you guys are some people whom I have not talked to in years, people whom I have never had a disagreement with, and people whom I have never even had a conversation with at all. However, all of you guys are tagged only for reason, and that is, that I am starting on a project and I wish to involve all of you.

     No, don’t worry. It’s not an assessed school assignment, but rather, a personal project. Many of us are often dissatisfied with our lives. I know I am, and thus, I decided to come up with this project. Let’s just put it as a life-changing project involving you and I.   

     Most of you may not know me well enough, but I am, or rather, I was someone whom used to hate the world, the people, and was always out to prove my worth. However, overtime I realized that life is so much more than worrying about the trends in fashion, the hate for others, and even revenge. Because I realized that while I was so caught up with myself, I tend to forget about the people who were there from the start; the people who did not judge or question, the people who trusted me, cared, and supported me. I was oblivious. In fact, I was worse than that. I had a mind of an exaggerated soldier. I hid among the barracks, armed with a machine gun. I not only isolated myself, but pushed everyone away from me, and would shoot at anyone whom I felt was out to hurt me. However, I realized that I was always too quick to jump the gun, hurting the innocent (I know that might sound rather severe, but I couldn’t really think of anything else to better describe what I was going through, so better to have it exaggerated huh :D). That is why I would like to take this opportunity to apologize.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry that we got off on a wrong foot. I’m sorry for not be there for you. I’m sorry for not listening. I’m sorry that I was always caught up in trying to prove my worth, that I neglected you. I’m sorry that I am always so caught up with what other people are saying about us. Most importantly, I’m sorry for not holding onto what we had, be it friendship, a bond, a connection. 

That is why I’d like to start over. No more hiding, no more fears, no more aggression, just me, and I hope you’d forgive me and start over too.

Hi, my name is Kethlyn, and I’d like to get to know you all over again.

Anger Management

As I type this, I am trying to get over a certain anger that is building up in me. The kind of anger where you feel like punching slow walking people at the back of the head, or throwing things just to see it break.




Fortunately, I did not unleash my great powers (just let me exaggerate okay. Hahah) as I saved myself by having some "Me time". I sang aloud to songs, skipped around the house, boogied to music videos, cuddled my dog, threw pillows around, and even waved to the pedestrians at the MRT station outside my window. Unfortunately, my dad was at home, so I couldn't do anything extreme. But he didn't bother about me anyways.




Now the reason as to why I am angry is not important. What's more important is how to deal with anger.

Often, anger pushes us to the brim, where we feel like ripping our shirts like the Incredible Hulk.





Now why is it so hard to get over Anger? Well, it's basically because it is associated with "Forgive and Forget".

Often, it is said that if you can forgive, then you can forget about it. One can't forget the issue without forgiving the person. And so, your anger will subside once you're done with the forgiving and forgetting.


In most religions, like the Christians, they believe that one should always forgive the person who triggered their "anger button".


There were quotes like this: (and no, I am not a Christian, but it wouldn't hurt to read about it, would it?)

• But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in Heaven for he maketh his Sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain in the just and the unjust. (Matthew 5:44,45)
• Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say unto thee, until seven times: but seventy seven times (Mathew 1:21,22)

And then there a quotes by famous people:

• The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong (Mahatma Gandhi)
• There is no revenge so complete as Forgiveness. ( Josh Billings)
• To err is human, to forgive is divine (Alexander Pope)

Or if you really can't do all that, screw it. Just punch your brother or something!



*Credits : http://www.bibleinsong.com/Promises/Spiritual_blessings/Forgiveness/Forgiveness.htm