Friendships

Friendships. 

I don't know whether it is a form of punishment (maybe I was Cruella De Vil in my previous life) but I always seem to be landing on the wrong spot when it comes to friendship.

Not too long ago, I met up with one of my good friends and while we were sharing with each other about all the nasty experiences we had,with some people, something struck us.

It suddenly dawned upon us that all the people that we were comfortable with, and were trying to avoid, had characteristics that were so similar to each other, that we were almost sure they were clones.

So why do I keep finding these clones even though I already know of their characteristics? It's like finding the needle in the haystack over and over again, even though I do not want to find it. Apart from these clones however, there are still loads more friendship issues that I am facing and to be honest, I just want everything to stop.

I used to be, and am still envious of all the people around me who can simply enjoy a good meal with their friends. I on the other hand, seem to always have complicated situations with people. One such friendship has turned so bad, that we're not even talking to each other. But the problem is that there wasn't any fault or issue to begin with. How complicated can friendships be? And it always has to end in such an awkward manner where I am at fault, being I am mean, scary, and manly.

I wish I had a twin whom I could confide to.

A prayer from a friend

Whenever I meet someone 'new' in camps or programmes, I would often stop to ponder to myself, "Would I keep in contact with this person after this event?"

Unfortunately, most, if not all of the 'new' people that I have met , would become nothing than  Facebook friends. Which means to say, that other than the mere act of 'liking' each others posts, or commenting every once in awhile on each others status, the relationship or rather, friendship, is stagnant. 

However, this time round, one such person decided to make a difference in my life. I'd love to call her a friend, but she is more than that. She is a mentor, a confidant, a role model, and a person who provides meaningful advice.

She is actually my group's mentor during the TCP camp, and I am indeed thankful that we did meet up even after the camp, because all her advice has definitely created a great in my life. She also lifted a couple of burden off my shoulder because it was through her that I realized, that all I needed was a listening ear in order to relief myself from whatever that I was keeping deep deep down inside of me. Instead of just giving me a listening ear, she gave me more than that.




She not only gave me sound advice, but prayed for me, to have strength in continuing my journey, to be one of the pillar of support to my mum, to be able to find good and true friends, and to be able to find and put to good use, the burning passion that I keep in me.


I am indeed very grateful, and no words can describe how touched I am. I hope all the good love that you have given to everyone, returns to you tenfold. I hope you continue to touch the many lives of others.

Spirit Day

Spirit day.

The date was marked on my calendar. I had been waiting for this event for a while now. And finally, when the clock stroke twelve, the mission began. A mission so great, that it could probably create a revolution.

What exactly am I talking about? Well, it is none other than Spirit Day.

I had spent the last few hours asking people if they knew what Spirit Day was about, or if they knew why 20th October was such a significant day. To my horror, no one knew what Spirit Day was, and the only significant thing about today, to them, was that it was 20102010. 

However, after I explained to them what Spirit Day is about, many of them were apologetic and sang praise of the people supporting this cause (but why didn't they join the cause too? I should've asked.).

Well, if you (the reader) have no clue as to what Spirit Day is, click here and here to read about it.

In short, 20th October, a.k.a Spirit Day is an unofficial 'holiday' to honor the six boys (below) and many others who gave up their lives to homophobic abuse. Being victimized and having to go through the torment, pain and suffering in school, at home and everywhere else is traumatizing. It is cruel to let these innocent people be judged and trampled on, because they are of the minority.

 

* Tyler Clementi, Seth Walsh (top)

* Justin Aaberg, Raymond Chase (middle)

* Asher Brown, Billy Lucas. (bottom)

So to honor them, people from various walks of life are coming together to support them by putting on purple. Out of all the colours, purple was chosen to honor them because it represents 'Spirit' in the Rainbow flag that was created by Gilbert Baker.  

 

The rainbow flag was first created in 1978, with eight coloured stripes, but by 2008, the design was changed several times due to the availability of the fabrics. Nonetheless, the meanings of the various colours on the initial designs are:

hot pink: sexuality

red: life

orange: healing

yellow: sunlight

green: nature

turquoise: magic/art

indigo/blue: serenity/harmony

violet: spirit

Let's put an end to all the hate. Afterall, we bleed red.

 

Do you? 

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