Showing posts with label deeds. Show all posts
Showing posts with label deeds. Show all posts

Saturday, December 06, 2008

Treatment

When I started this blog (Sitandwhine), I wanted a goal for it, or rather, for myself. It wasn't about hitting the most visits per day, nor was it of me wanting people to talk about my posts while on the streets in Singapore.

It was more like (from my blog's introduction. And The 2 questions were "Have you found joy in your life?" and "Have your life brought joy to others?") bringing joy to my life and to others through my posts, where I share information not only about my life but also about others, as well as opinions too.


But over the year, this goal kept slipping away from my reach, making it harder to get any step closer to my goal.

This went as horrendous as making up revengeful things(like the "water treatment") to do to people my friends and I disliked. But we often ended up bursting in laughter, with nothing much done. But come to think of it, it still isn't very pleasant.


The thought of not helping those whom I felt were deserving still lingered in my head, until one day, when i received this email.



Five (5) lessons to make you think about the way we treat people.

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1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:

'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?'

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if
the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers,
you will meet many people. All are significant. They
deserve your attention and care, even if all you do
is smile and say 'hello.'

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her
name was Dorothy.

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2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:3 0 p.m., an older African American
woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway
trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had
broken down and she desperately needed a ride.
Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally
unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s.. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance and
put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his
address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a
knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a
giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A
special note was attached..

It read:
'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway
the other night. The rain drenched not only my
clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.
Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying
husband's bedside just before he passed away.. God
bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving
others.'

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

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3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less,
a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and
sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him..

'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked.

'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and
studied the coins in it.

'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient.

'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.

'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the
table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,
were two nickels and five pennies..

You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had
to have enough left to leave her a tip.

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4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if
anyone would remove the huge rock Some of the
king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the
King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did
anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the
person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The
peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.

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5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness.. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a
deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will
save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in
bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did,
seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his
face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away'.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her but he had chosen to save her anyway.




This totally changed my conception of helping people out. Who are we to judge who's worth it or not? But as mush as I want to help, I still find helping strangers way easier and less complaining, than helping our own kin. But I'm still trying to change that concept!



Loves.

Thursday, November 06, 2008

True Act of Singaporeans

I went out again yesterday, took the MRT, and returned home feeling rather uncomfortable.

The MRT ride to and fro made me see the true colours of Singaporeans, or at least, the people living in Singapore. It made me question whether or not Singa the courtesy Mascot is doing his job.


The journey from home was rather uncomfortable. The train was not at crowded as it used to be and everyone had a place to sit. And there I was, trying to sleep when I was disturbed by the most obscene thing ever. Apparently, I was seated at the corner seats, and there was this guy who was leaning against the glass. What was disturbing was the action of constantly squishing and moving his butt up and down, against the glass, and I had the full view of it! The mere sight of it wrecked my hunger for sleep, and so I stayed awake, by zombie- ly reading my Reader's Digest.


The journey back home wasn't that great either. There I was, in the overly packed train, seeing teenagers, around my age, blocking the entrances of the doors by literally sitting by them. I used to sit by doors to, but I always say at the doors that rarely opened, and if they did, I always got up a stop before they opened.


To make matters worst, there was a pregnant lady on board, with a pram, and NO ONE actually gave up their sits for her! On one of the stops, the pram nearly toppled and luckily there was another elderly guy who gave up his seat to save it. What a great country, elderly giving up seats for the pregnant/other elderly.

This has not been the first time where I saw elderly giving up seats for others. In fact, there have been other incidents whereby youths, or young adults actually pretended to fall asleep so that they "did not see" the others who need it more.

There have also been incidents where an elderly gave up his seat for someone, and another person actually rushed and sat on the seat!



And I hate it whenever there are couples on board. It's either they start hugging and do all the mushy mushy stuff, or the girl would lean against the pole, with the guy's hand on her waist or something, totally preventing others from holding onto the pole to prevent themselves from falling.


I wonder if Singapore is really proud of its people. I just hope the foreigners that come to Singapore don't learn from us, and do the same thing to others.




By the way,
OBAMA WON! YAY!